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4 Lessons I Teach My Son Every Pay Period

Every two weeks my son and I exercise our money routine. This occurs every other Friday when I get paid.

We sit down after school and I bring out my checkbook and I prepare to write two checks. One to myself and one to my son. We both fill out the memo section individually. He writes whatever he wants and I do the same. After filling out the checks, we discuss what we wrote in the memo section.

He gets $25 every two weeks and has to decide what he will do with his money. Deposit it all, some of it, or spend all of it on a toy, game or snack. We then walk to the bank across the street from where we live and deposit the checks into our accounts.

Pay yourself before you pay anyone else

It is important that he understands that he needs to reward/pay/appreciate himself. First.

Invest in yourself

By paying himself first, he is learning the value of investing in himself. This is something I want him to learn at a young age as competing responsibilities will cloud his judgement as he grows older.

Saving

The importance of savings is invaluable. It is important for him to have money for an emergency, to allow money to build to buy something he really wants, or just watching his savings account grow. I allowed him to experience buyer’s remorse and has learned from it.

Budgeting

Of course he wants to buy the newest games out, hottest shoes, candy, or a new book from his favorite author. I teach him patience in buying things. There will always be a “NEW THING” to buy which makes the last purchase old. Saving more than he spends each time he gets paid ensuring growth in his account. Looking for sales. Mapping out purchases.

Someone else will buy it for him

He often asks how much do I have in my bank account. We check online and he gets excited. Of course immediately he thinks of his next purchase and I am usually guilty of telling him to save his money and I, his mother, or other family members will buy it.

These are lessons integral in my son’s financial education. And he’s only 10. But as his father, it’s my responsibility to make sure he has these foundations down because I can’t and won’t depend on his school or teachers to do it for me.

Bashea Williams, LCSW-C

Paul Bashea (Bah-Shay) Williams, LCSW-C, LICSW is described as an Intellectual Emotionalist. Someone who understands what a man thinks and what a woman feels. Helping the two meet and have common ground by encouraging emotion and logic to agree. He is a dedicated father, Licensed Certified Social Worker- Clinical, Relationship Specialist and Writer. He works with at-risk youth and specializes in marriage and family, couples, and individual counseling. He provides relationship advice to individuals and couples. He writes about life, love, and fatherhood. His writing, acting, and public speaking has been featured on panels throughout the country, Huffington Post and several other popular websites, national syndicated radio shows, television and movies. Bashea first started writing to first hold himself accountable and get a better understanding of people's hearts and minds. He loves how relationships work and operate. He strives to help others through his words. Bashea Williams has provided valuable insight on relationships, motivation, and parenting on a variety of panels and conferences. He is highly recruited and his work is valued as measurable and complete. He has years of providing counseling services for singles, couples, youth, and families. Bashea Williams has become well-known for his Trademarked Dear Future Wife series that serves as a man's guide and a woman's reference. His goal is to influence healthy relationships by having compromise, consideration, and an understanding of how people interact. You can follow his work at BasheaWilliams.com, BasheaWilliams on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube.

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  1. Impressed Reader

    I’m so impressed! This is a beautifully crafted site to match your amazing work!

    Well done and best of luck, Mr. Williams.

    A fan.

    1. Bashea Williams

      Thank you!

  2. Ed Batist

    A great habit to instill. Setting the foundation!!!!!!

    1. Bashea Williams

      My son is already developing the habits and talking about it.

  3. Denise Crute

    You never cease to inspire me about the future. Keep teaching!

    1. Bashea Williams

      Thank you Denise. I appreciate you.

  4. Cheryl

    Would love to pass this on to my son can you give me a email or web address

  5. Keeia

    Love it, i love the whole site!! So proud of you my friend!

  6. Shawna

    WOW…this entire website is inspiring. Love the goals you have listed for your son. I’m going to install these life lessons into my son. Beautifully done!

  7. Monisha Ceasar

    I am already benefiting from this awesome information. Thank you so much for imforming us and giving tips on how to accomplish as well!!

  8. KARLA STEPHENS

    This is awesome. Thank you for sharing. I will definitely share this with others. God bless!

  9. Sunny

    You are wonderful.

    1. Bashea Williams

      Thank you. I appreciate you.

  10. Huey Futch

    Great stuff Bashea…sometimes us men think we know all the trick and trades to raise our sons until someone show other ways to get it done. Fantastic guildlines for men and women.

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