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Dear Future Wife: My Fantasy

I have been asked what is my fantasy when it comes to sexual relations.

When it comes to sex; what have I never done.

What positions?

What places I have never indulged?

How many partners at a time?

What is beyond my wildest imagination?

If I could be with anyone, who would I choose?

What is off limits?

What are my desires?

What type of music would I play while participating?

Have I had any complaints?

Have I made someone cry during a sexual encounter?

The questions came and I didn’t know how to answer them genuinely.

I felt uncomfortable answering them, not because I was in doubt, not because they may or may not have happened but because something was missing.

Not being aligned with my ultimate fantasy is what was missing.

My ultimate fantasy remained the same.

For answers to be answered by my wife.

It was to start my connection of souls, sexually, with my wife.

It started with saying I do!

Then on the honeymoon being totally free.

Free from guilt.

Free from wondering is she the one.

Free from releasing my efforts to embrace someone who may not be my forever.

Scared that my performance made more sense and held more weight than our covenant.

I wanted to create love, make love, and live in it without doubts of tomorrow’s dislikes.

Dislikes that create, make, live in a goodbye that could be so easily said.

I want to look in your eyes during each love-making moment and soul-tie even tighter.

A knot that could never be untied.

My fantasy starts with “I do”.

My fantasy is to travel to an exotic island be greeted with welcome Mr. and Mrs., here is your room.

My fantasy is to hear someone say “You have a beautiful wife”.

My fantasy is to introduce you in this exact way “This is my wife”.

My fantasy is to wake up one day, have an awe moment of “I’m married”.

My fantasy is to not be the only “not married” in a circle of my close friends.

My fantasy is to get married for all the right reasons.

My fantasy is us working on our issues despite the difficulty.

My fantasy is not giving up on each other.

My fantasy is for you to be able to channel your inner Shug Avery and say “I’s married now” and mean it.

My fantasy is to have the approval of God in line with what making love was made for.

My fantasy is for my wife to have all the answers.

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Bashea Williams, LCSW-C

Paul Bashea (Bah-Shay) Williams, LCSW-C, LICSW is described as an Intellectual Emotionalist. Someone who understands what a man thinks and what a woman feels. Helping the two meet and have common ground by encouraging emotion and logic to agree. He is a dedicated father, Licensed Certified Social Worker- Clinical, Relationship Specialist and Writer. He works with at-risk youth and specializes in marriage and family, couples, and individual counseling. He provides relationship advice to individuals and couples. He writes about life, love, and fatherhood. His writing, acting, and public speaking has been featured on panels throughout the country, Huffington Post and several other popular websites, national syndicated radio shows, television and movies. Bashea first started writing to first hold himself accountable and get a better understanding of people's hearts and minds. He loves how relationships work and operate. He strives to help others through his words. Bashea Williams has provided valuable insight on relationships, motivation, and parenting on a variety of panels and conferences. He is highly recruited and his work is valued as measurable and complete. He has years of providing counseling services for singles, couples, youth, and families. Bashea Williams has become well-known for his Trademarked Dear Future Wife series that serves as a man's guide and a woman's reference. His goal is to influence healthy relationships by having compromise, consideration, and an understanding of how people interact. You can follow his work at BasheaWilliams.com, BasheaWilliams on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube.

This Post Has 3 Comments

  1. Shonna Branch

    I have never thought of “fantasy ” in this way, but we all want this same thing!

  2. Camille

    My fantasy starts with “I do”.
    I concur…

  3. Sojourner Truth

    Fantasy tends to speak to things that are not likely to be true or to happen. Interesting but the things you speak of cam happen if you want them to.

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